Let the fella take a rest. He's real old.

I still see the occasional holdout, but I just realized last night that I have seen almost zero positive Trump sentiment on FB, and the only people engaging with my posts at all are people on the left, or people I know who had voted for Trump and now regret it. It seems they have almost nothing to brag about like they normally would. I think they’re starting to realize how f*cked we’re about to be with all the trade war tariff stuff and the fact that Trump now has the Trump 2028 stuff up in his store, etc.

My wife (39f) and I (41m) have a 13-year-old son who recently came to me with a personal question: was it okay for him to shave “down there”? I was surprised but stayed calm. I told him it was normal to want to feel clean or tidy and that body grooming is a personal choice. I made sure he wasn’t feeling pressured by anyone and reminded him hygiene and safety come first. He asked if I could help him get a trimmer. I said yes.

Later that night, I told my wife, thinking she'd appreciate how open he felt with me. Instead, she was upset. She said 13 is “too young” to be thinking about that, and that I was “encouraging adult behavior.” I told her it’s not inherently sexual, it’s about body comfort and ownership, and if we don’t make it taboo, he’ll be more likely to come to us about things in the future.

She strongly disagreed and said I should’ve waited until they could both be present to talk about it. I explained it was a private moment between father and son and I didn’t want to shame him or make him feel weird about asking. She said I went behind her back.

This led to a bigger argument. She started questioning how we handle other topics like body image, puberty, screen time. She asked me to return the trimmer. I said no. I told her we need to be aligned, but I won’t punish our son for being open and responsible.

To be completely clear, we’ve always been open about bodies and development. But this seems to have triggered something deeper in her. She comes from a more conservative upbringing and has always been a bit anxious about our son growing up “too fast.”

Since then, she’s been cold with both of us. She told me she feels “undermined.” Our son has picked up on the tension and now feels awkward even talking about normal hygiene stuff.

We’re now in a bit of a standoff. I’ve tried to bring it up gently, suggested we talk with a therapist together about how we approach puberty topics, but she thinks I’m being too “dramatic.” Her sister (who has older teens) told her I did the right thing and that this isn’t a big deal, but my wife thinks that’s just “modern parenting gone too far.”

So now I’m wondering:

AITAH for supporting our son in a private grooming choice without looping in my wife first?

Is she TA for reacting this strongly and creating shame around something that could’ve been handled with less drama?

(For what it’s worth, I also told our son that if he ever feels uncomfortable or unsure about any body stuff, he can talk to either of us, and that we both love him no matter what.)

Red fire is ~950 degrees Celsius (~1500 degrees Fahrenheit)
Blue fire is ~1482 degrees Celsius (~2700 degrees Fahrenheit)

Our yard is wild. I mean that in the real definition of "living or growing in the natural environment". We have no "lawn". We aggressively remove and prevent invasive and noxious species of plants and ensure that what grows is native to our area and drought resistant. The wildflowers that grow are things like Lupine, Blue Flax, Spiderwort, Black eyed Susan, and Sunflowers, among others. We have natural elements like driftwood logs to retain water and we even have an elk skull in the yard to act as a shelter for critters. There are a plethora of birds, bees, bunnies, and other wildlife. More wildlife than any yard in the area, as far as I can tell. It's beautiful and alive, but definitely not a manicured lawn with perfectly cut grass and landscaping.

Last summer, we got a notice from the county that our yard was in violation of some county ordinance. My husband called the number on the notice and got a very "over it" employee who let out a big sigh and said he had gotten like 30 complaints from one person for the entire strip of road that we live on. Keep in mind, you can't "batch" report an area. You have to file reports house by house. So someone had the time and energy to pull up Google maps and file a report for about 30 houses for "overgrown weeds."

I checked the county ordinance and made sure everything we had in our yard was in compliance. Things like "purposely cultivated," which our wildflowers definitely were. We planted specific species of seeds and we remove whatever's not native. None of the wild plants block any sidewalks nor do they hang over onto any other properties.

Now knowing that it was someone with way too much time on their hands, I did some reading and learned that my yard has everything needed and then some to qualify as a National Wildlife Habitat. So, I filled out the form, paid the fee, and got my certificate.

My husband called the county employee back who said "Send me that certificate." He looked it over, thanked my husband for the new information he can use in the future, and closed our case.

I now have signs on my yard that announce the property as a wildlife habitat and the birds and bees get to keep living happily in the wild.

I had a final interview with a mid-sized software company yesterday for a senior developer position. The technical assessment and management interviews went incredibly well, and the salary range matched what I was looking for.

As we were wrapping up, the HR director said, "Just one last question before we finish up..." Then she hit me with: "Could you tell me if you're planning to have children in the next few years?"

I was completely caught off guard. After an awkward pause, I asked her to repeat the question, thinking I must have misheard. Nope - she actually doubled down and said, "We just want to know about your family planning situation for our team planning purposes."

I've been through dozens of interviews in my career, but this was a first. I politely told her that I wasn't comfortable answering that question as it's not legally appropriate for hiring decisions. She seemed genuinely surprised I called her out on it.

The entire positive vibe of the interview immediately evaporated. I thanked her for her time but mentioned that I had concerns about a company culture where such questions were considered acceptable.

On my drive home, I was still in disbelief. Has anyone else encountered something like this in tech interviews recently? I'm not sure if I should report this or just move on to other opportunities.

I recently reported my roommate at uni as she stole my switch to pay for her half of the rent. Since then she's been kicked out of the room we were staying at and I'm starting to feel bad. Am I overreacting?