Reading the game manual after buying the game on my way home

My bf (25) goes to pick up food for us pretty often. Some days my mom doesn’t feel like cooking and asks where we’re getting food from. Then she asks if he’ll pick up food for her too and send him the money, but she gets it from where we do. She doesn’t order anywhere nearby, she orders from the exact same place we do.

This is only the second time she’s asked this week and the past 2 months. The In N Out part is because if she knows I’ll be out of town she’ll ask if I’m willing to pick it up for her on my way back. I’m always willing to because it’s on the way and doesn’t cost me anything other than 10-30 minutes in the drive thru.

I understand it’s not his mom and he has no obligation but I also don’t see anything wrong with what my mom is doing. She’s not pushy at all. It honestly breaks my heart to tell her no and that he just doesn’t want to because it’s her asking.

I’m 32F, my husband is 31M. We have a 6yrs old son, Leo. He’s a sweet, curious kid who’s really into dinosaurs and loves riding his little blue bike.

Last weekend, I went grocery shopping while my husband stayed home with Leo. Apparently, Leo was outside riding his bike and left it in the front yard while he went inside to get water. A few minutes later, our neighbor, Ms. Robert, came over saying her grandson (8M) saw Leo take his bike. My husband looked out, didn’t see Leo’s bike, and assumed the worst.

He confronted Leo, who insisted he didn’t steal anything. He said his bike was gone. My husband didn’t believe him and told him he was grounded, no TV, no tablet until he told the truth and apologized.

Leo refused, saying, “I didn’t take anyone’s bike! Why are you punishing me when I didn’t do anything?”

Later that afternoon, Ms. Robert returned, visibly embarrassed. Turns out her grandson had taken Leo’s bike to the park because he thought it looked cooler. He made the whole story up to avoid getting in trouble.

When I got home, my husband explained the situation. I figured, “Okay, you’ll apologize to Leo and this will be a learning moment.” But nope he doubled down. He said Leo still needed to be punished for “disrespect” and “refusing to obey.”

I said, “So you want to punish him for telling the truth and standing up for himself?”

He said, “It’s the principle. He needs to listen, even when he doesn’t agree.”

And I said, “I’d rather raise a boy who knows how to stand up for himself than one who just lays down and accepts mistreatment. Especially when he’s innocent.”

We got into a pretty heated argument. He says I’m being unreasonable and dramatic and undermining him as a parent.

But I don’t think I’m wrong for wanting to teach my son that it’s okay to say no when something is unfair, even if it’s coming from a parent.

AITA?

One day, the red hat will be viewed about the same way we viewed the comfort flag, and the swastika!