I(F18) don't post this kind of personal stuff so I decided to post it here. If you have feedback back please tell... So I sent him a photo of me on my bike fully geared up. I thought it was casual. But he got upset and said it made him uncomfortable, claiming that girls on motorcycles get sexualized a lot, especially on social media. He doesn't like the idea of people looking at me that way and said I should be more considerate of how it makes him feel.

I ride because I love it, it makes me feel free, confident, and strong. I wasn't trying to be sexy or attract attention. But I do see where he's coming from a little.. the whole "biker girl" image has become more sexualized online, and maybe that's shaped how he sees it.

Still, it felt like he was projecting that onto me, and now I'm wondering... am I overreacting for feeling like this is more about control than genuine concern?

My boyfriend (33m) and I (31f) have been dating for seven years. Early on we talked about marriage, kids, a house, the whole shebang.

I like kids and I think I’d be a good mother. I’d like to have children but I wouldn’t be upset if I didn’t have any. I’m happy with my life as is, and I could be happy with children as well. My boyfriend has always dreamed of being a dad, and recently suggested that we’re in the place to start trying for some.

I was a little confused by this. I told him early on, within the first year, that I would never have children with a man that I’m not married to. I feel like children are a much bigger commitment than marriage, so marriage should come first. Additionally, if a man doesn’t love me and isn’t committed enough to spending the rest of our lives together, I don’t see why I wouldn’t make the sacrifice of bearing his children? Maybe it’s old fashioned of me. I explained all of this to him, once again.

He was awkward, and said he just doesn’t want to get married. He said men get screwed over in divorces all the time, and he just doesn’t think marriage is important or a smart choice.

I said that’s fine. We don’t have to get married. I’m happy with our life as is. We just won’t be buying a house together or having children together. We can each buy our own house and live in one, and rent out the other. If we aren’t getting married I don’t want to really entangle our finances in any way.

He blew up at me and said I’m punishing him for not waiting to marry him. I said I’m not, just that having children outside of marriage goes outside of my personal values.

I also told him that since he’s super against the idea of marriage I am not going to marry him just for a shut up ring, that he only gives me because he wants kids. I want him to actually want to marry me, and if not, that’s okay. Children and marriage are off the table for us. If he wants kids now he needs to leave me and find someone who will have kids for him without expecting any stability in return. And maybe I could find someone who wants to marry me, and maybe or maybe not have kids. I said all of this to him.

He’s been very distressed and emotionally distraught. He has a disease that very much so limits his life expectancy. He has said that if he doesn’t have kids asap he probably shouldn’t have them at all, because otherwise he wouldn’t be able to see them into adulthood.

AITAH?

For me it's smithing and crafting in general, it feels awesome to actually forge your own items and cook actual meals

Say hi to Dexter. He and I would like to see pictures of other cats please to help us cheer up!

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No matter what a bar's current name is, you will always refer to it by the name of when you first started drinking there.

For the past few weeks, I (20F) have noticed a fly that seems to be following me. I see it at least once a day - sometimes in my bedroom, sometimes in the living room, and even at my desk at work. I’ve checked my home for any signs of an infestation but haven’t found anything. What’s strange is that it always looks like the exact same fly: same size, same type. I’ve tried killing it a few times and thought I succeeded, but it always seems to reappear the next day.

Other people have seen the fly too, so I know I’m not imagining it, but no one believes me when I say it’s following me. It’s been happening consistently for about three weeks, and it’s starting to feel really unsettling.

Has anyone experienced anything like this before? Is there a logical explanation for it?