I found this happy little family on a retaining wall in my garden. I tried to google them but I can't tell if they're flying ants or termites. Please help and advise, lmao. The retaining wall isn't connected to my house but is close enough for this to be terrifying.

Also, I took bug spray to them and a lot of them died in case that helps.

So i’m 19 and a first-year university student. Last week in my anthropology class, the professor was lecturing on different belief systems and made a joke about ancestor veneration, saying it was like having dead relatives watching you like spiritual Netflix. Most of the class laughed, but I was silent stoned cause i don’t think its funny at all.

I’m half japanese and in my family honoring ancestors is something taken seriously. We visit graves, make offerings, and participate in traditions like Obon. It’s something I grew up with and hearing it reduced to a joke made me really uncomfortable. I didn’t make a scene and just quietly left after that and later on, the professor emailed me saying my behavior was disruptive and I should’ve brought concerns to office hours. I responded explaining my perspective, but now I’m wondering if I overreacted. Some classmates support me, others say I’m too sensitive. I wasn’t trying to be dramatic. I just didn’t feel respected you know. AITA?

Now it is mixed with a 1000 other mixed lego sets that he has. even started building his little houses with the pieces. I don't think I can ever finish this... but sorting out lego is kinda relaxing.

I’m sick and tired of people saying that you shouldn’t be friends with your coworkers, and I’m not talking be friendly with people. I mean play video games together, go to bars,talk about life.

We are so lonely today. Most people have maybe 2 friends these days at best. We are social creatures, and need companionship. For jobs that allow it, make friends with the people there. You already have a conversation starter, so it’s easier than walking up to a stranger. Plus, you can have someone relate when you complain about work.

Employers also use this societal stigma to make it hard for pay transparency. At my last job with friends, I was comfortable asking for their raise and sharing mine, and nobody got salty about it. If someone got a good raise, you’d say “I’m happy for you.”

Edit: I don’t mean literally every coworker should become a friend. I wasn’t friends with literally everyone in my department, but being friends with 20ish is still way abnormal for society. I’m talking about a willingness to make friends and not just say “after I leave yall can get fucked.”

Edit 2: I am not saying to be amicable with your coworkers. That is (hopefully) a given. I do mean actual friendships that go beyond the boundaries of work. I’m also not talking about managers saying “we’re like a family.” That’s a huge red flag. I’m talking about you and someone at work strike up a conversation and realize “oh I like talking to this person” and start a friendship that way.

Edit 3: Yall being little bitches in the comment section probably got burned by your coworkers for a reason and are the coworkers I won’t be making friends with. You must be soooo much fun in real life. See you on the wrong side of r/relationshipadvice.