This weekend, my boyfriend(M21) and I(F19) went out drinking with friends including one of my closest friends and her boyfriend. I got drunk but I was aware of what was happening and still having fun. Later that night, my boyfriend and I had sex in his car near the bar. It was mutual.

The next day, I told that same friend about it, and she got really serious. She said she saw how out of it I was at the bar and that since he was sober, I couldn’t have given proper consent. She straight up told me she thinks it was rape. I remember saying yes, I felt safe, and we’ve been together for a while. I am bit mad and upset at my friend even if it was a place of concern. Am I overreacting for feeling this way?

Jumping on the conservative hate train because yeah, they’re awful and should be ashamed of themselves. But I have a question for those who are still somehow on the fence of our countries historic ruination. I often hear the phrase “both sides are bad” when someone doesn’t have a clear political side. But with how cruel and inhumane trump’s right wing minions are running our country, I don’t know how anyone can pretend the left is equally as evil. Biden was at worst, incompetent, and democrats shot themselves in the foot but allowing that senile bastard run again and then not even having another primary after he finally realized he was too old. Now that we see what happens when republicans have the majority of the power of our government, it’s blatantly clear how the right is owned by the rich to exploit the masses. Moving the tax burden from themselves to us with the reckless addition of tariffs while they get tax cuts and essential government programs are shut down. Can anyone tell me how the left is just as bad?

I (F26) and my boyfriend (M25) attended a mutual friend’s wedding. They’re very close friends to us and brought my boyfriend and I together. My boyfriend and I are coming up on our 3 year anniversary and things were getting pretty serious. Enough so that I very much wanted to marry him. He’s sweet, chatty, typically considerate and empathetic. He’s the person who I thought was the first to show me what a truly healthy and compassionate relationship was like. He’s very serious about us too. We’ve had long talks about marriage and it seemed we were in agreement with no formal declaration. We had even gotten as far as looking at rings. So the chance of a proposal was more of a “when” not “if.”

A few weeks before the wedding, us and the engaged couple at the time were hanging out. The topic of weddings was very prevalent and my boyfriend had cracked a joke about proposing at our friend’s wedding. The to-be-groom joked back and said “that’d be funny as hell.” This was followed by me and the to-be-bride both shutting it down; trying to be serious but also not thinking he was serious.

He was.

During the reception, everyone had made their speeches and people were getting their food. While our table was waiting, my boyfriend went up to the DJ, and after, they played my boyfriend and I’s favorite song to scream sing in the car together — Story of my Life by One Direction. I look at him, smiling and he’s looking around. All of a sudden he grabs a fork, stands up and begins clanging on a glass. Immediately the whole dining room looks over. I stand up and whisper the words “not. Right. Now.” His face drops and he yells a mix of “I’m sorry, I was just joking.” After he sat back down I verbatim said “let them have their moment, let’s make this our own.” He wouldn’t even look at me. When it was time to get our food he immediately goes toward the exit. I follow and tried to catch up to him but couldn’t find him. I text him twice and call him a couple times, but got no answer, so I went back to the reception.

After not hearing from him for about an hour and a half or so, he returns, sits down, and doesn’t even look at me. The rest of the night was terrible. He looked like his dog just died and I’m trying to make the best out of the night, but felt like I was just in his shadow. I was prepping for a breakdown or maybe a fight in the car, but the only thing he said was “I don’t want to talk about it right now.” And the drive was just quiet and awkward.

He sent me a long text about how hard it was to get the ring, how he felt rejected by his closest person and that I embarrassed him.

I tried to explain that it’s not that I didn’t want to marry him. It was our best friend’s wedding and they deserve their moment. That we should create our own and not piggyback off theirs. He got offended and said that if I wanted to marry him, I wouldn’t have stopped his proposal in front of everybody.

This situation perplexes me. I’ve never seen the appeal of proposing at someone else’s wedding and tried to handle the situation in a way that I felt was calm and chill. But he’s very adamant that I ruined the proposal, made him look like an asshole, and thus im the asshole. Am I missing something? Should I admit I was wrong and have just let his proposal go at our friend’s wedding?

"Oh you want to know more about it? Just use ChatGPT..."

"Oh I just ChatGPT it."

I'm sorry, but what about this AI/LLM/word salad generating machine is so irresitably attractive and "accurate" that almost everyone I know insists on using it for information?

I get that Google isn't any better, with the recent amount of AI garbage that has been flooding it and it's crappy "AI overview" which does nothing to help. But come on, Google exists for a reason. When you don't know something you just Google it and you get your result, maybe after using some tricks to get rid of all the AI results.

Why are so many people around me deciding to put the information they received up to a dice roll? Are they aware that ChatGPT only "predicts" what the next word might be? Hell, I had someone straight up told me "I didn't know about your scholarship so I asked ChatGPT". I was genuinely on the verge of internally crying. There is a whole website to show for it, and it takes 5 seconds to find and another maybe 1 minute to look through. But no, you asked a fucking dice roller for your information, and it wasn't even concrete information. Half the shit inside was purely "it might give you XYZ"

I'm so sick and tired about this. Genuinely it feels like ChatGPT is a fucking drug that people constantly insist on using over and over. "Just ChatGPT it!" "I just ChatGPT it." You are fucking addicted, I am sorry. I am not touching that fucking AI for any information with a 10 foot pole, and sticking to normal Google, Wikipedia, and yknow, websites that give the actual fucking information rather than pulling words out of their ass ["learning" as they call it].

So sick and tired of this. Please, just use Google. Stop fucking letting AI give you info that's not guaranteed to be correct.

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